This idea is everywhere in the spiritual growth sphere right now. EVERYWHERE.
And the advice largely consists of take a bubble bath/get your nails done/hang out with the girlfriends…
All well and good. I love a pedicure as much as the next girl. But advice like this really just skims the surface of what it truly means to indulge in some radical self care.
So what is self care?
Self care is about creating cushions in your life.
A financial cushion should you lose your job, your home or have to get out of a relationship real quick.
An emotional cushion for when friendships falter, relationships end or loved ones let you down.
A cushion of time and space to absorb the inevitable time sucks we come across in every day life.
Self care is about creating the conditions in your life that allow you to be resilient to the ups and downs of living.
How do you practice this kind of self care?
This kind of self care – actively encouraging resilience – is work for the long term. It means saving money, clearing debt, fostering strong friendships, making sustainable health and fitness choices and cutting unnecessary crap from your life.
By all means have a bubble bath and paint your nails. But don’t mistake those indulgences for true self care.